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LESSON 5
*October 23 - 29
Abigail: No Victim of Circumstances

SABBATH AFTERNOON

Read for This Week's Study:

1 Samuel 25, Isa. 28:23, 53:12, Dan. 9:15-19, Matt. 15:10, Rom. 8:34.

Memory Text:

"Wisdom rests in the heart of him who has understanding, But what is in the
heart of fools is made known" (Proverbs 14:33, NKJV).
 Have you ever felt a victim of circumstances? Have you ever wished you could
be somewhere else? Or that you were someone else? Consider, then, the character
for this week: Abigail.

She was an intelligent and beautiful woman but, unfortunately, married a
selfish, short-sighted, and mean man, Nabal--a descendant of Caleb, but nothing
like his esteemed forefather. Nabal may have been wealthy, but his name or
nickname, which means "fool" or "foolish," accurately reflected his character.

In the time of Abigail and Nabal, marriages were prearranged, and so Abigail
probably had no choice in the matter. Circumstances seemed to speak against her
in such a marriage as this. Conditions were not favorable, but in the glimpse
that we are given into the life of Abigail, we are encouraged not to become
victims of circumstances.

Abigail did not try to escape reality. She was realistic about her situation (1
Sam. 25:25), but she did not let circumstances ruin her. She decided to grow
where she was planted.

*Study this week's lesson to prepare for Sabbath, October 30.
SUNDAY
October 24

Someone Who Will Listen

Most folk have no problem talking. If the truth be known, most of us talk too
much. How much better would it be if we learned to be good listeners. There are
seminars given on how to be better listeners. After all, a lot is going on
around us. How important, then, for us to listen.

Read Isaiah 28:23, Matthew 15:10, and James 1:19. What are they telling us to
do, and why?

David and his men were on the run from Saul. While living in the wilderness of
Paran, they met up with the herdsmen and animals of the wealthy landowner
Nabal. Instead of helping themselves to the animals, David and his men
protected the herdsmen and animals. At last, the sheep- shearing time arrived,
and a festive spirit was in the air. This was the time for saying thank you and
giving gifts. Knowing this, David sent ten of his men to ask for provisions.

Read 1 Samuel 25:1-11. Why is David so insulted by Nabal's reply? What does
David hear?

Nabal is truly making good on his name. He sneeringly calls David's men runaway
slaves and sends them packing empty-handed. Nabal makes it very clear that he
thinks David is a nobody. In his mind, David is so insignificant that knowing
where he comes from or what he is doing is not really worth the asking. Though
David has demonstrated amazing self-restraint with murderous King Saul, he,
like us, feels deeply wounded when told that he is a nobody and amounts to
nothing. This is compounded by the fact that he had shown kindness and was
being rewarded with insults and humiliation.

Nabal is totally unaware of who he is dealing with. He does seem to know some
of the facts. He knows who David's father was and that David is on the run from
Saul, but Nabal is so self-centered and conceited that he is unable or
unwilling to listen to his servants. Nabal's servants have lived near David's
men and know that they are a fighting force to be reckoned with. The servants
recognize that their master " 'is such a wicked man that no one can talk to
him' " (1 Sam. 25:17, NIV). And so they turn to someone who will
listen--Abigail.
When was the last time your lack of attentive listening caused you or others
trouble? How can you learn from your mistakes? 
MONDAY
October 25

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Read 1 Samuel 25. What is the essence of the story? What lessons immediately
can be drawn from it? What questions remain? 
After having heard the report of the servant, Abigail immediately begins
preparations. Abigail does more than listen; she acts. The narrator in 1 Samuel
25:18, 19 details the list of supplies she readies: raisins, figs, sheep ready
to be cooked, roasted grain, bread, and wine. These supplies were luxurious and
probably more than David's ten men had expected.

The next part of the story is full of movement and action. The writer of the
passage moves between different scenes, building the tension. We wait and hold
our breath for the moment of contact. In the heat of the moment, without
pausing to listen to God or reason, David and his men march out to take revenge
because of an insult. The number of men that David takes with him reflects just
how angry he is. David is pulling out two-thirds of his fighting force.

When we react in anger, it is very difficult to make an appropriate response;
we normally overreact. Abigail does not just send the gifts off and then wait
to see what happens. She saddles up and rides to meet David. Despite the fact
that she has been married to an overbearing and rash man, she has not allowed
him to crush her spirit. She has not let herself be victimized. She still holds
to her sense of self-worth and is ready to risk her life in order to protect
her household. The odds are something like the young David facing Goliath: a
woman with donkey-loads of food and a few servants, going to face 400 armed and
angry men.

Meanwhile Nabal, the fool, is also busy. While his brave wife is going out to
face an angry army, he is at home having a dinner party and getting drunk.

What do the following verses teach about the significance of our actions? Matt.
7:21, 25:31-46, James 2:14-17. 
Talk may be cheap, but our actions confirm or contradict our speech. The
actions of Abigail, David, and Nabal speak volumes about what they thought, who
was important to them, and which spirit motivated their actions.
If someone were to draw conclusions about you and the kind of person you are
solely by your actions, what conclusions would they draw, and why? What does
your answer tell you about yourself? 
TUESDAY
October 26

A Time to Talk

In a mountain valley or ravine, Abigail meets up with David's forces. She bows
before David and treats him as though he were already king.

Read carefully Abigail's speech in 1 Samuel 25:23-31. Contrast that to Nabal's
reply (vss. 10, 11). What does this tell us about the difference between the
two of them? 
Abigail addresses David as "my lord." Perhaps this in itself serves as a
reminder to David that he should behave as would befit God's anointed king and
not as the leader of a marauding band. Abigail is able to promote nobleness in
David, because she has not lost her own sense of self-worth. This enables her
to see the best in David and encourage godly behavior in him.

What is the first thing Abigail says to David? What do her words remind you of?
What is she attempting to do? Exod. 32:32, Esther 7:2-4, Isa. 53:12, Dan.
9:15-19, Rom. 8:34. 
Intercession is marked by one common denominator: the person interceding must
closely identify with the person he or she is interceding for, whether or not
the interceding person stands to gain anything from the transaction. The person
must be willing to put aside his or her own selfish interests and ask for what
would be best for someone else. Abigail could have seen this threat on Nabal's
life as a way of getting rid of her husband and regaining her freedom; instead,
she chooses to identify herself with him and pleads for his undeserving life.

Perhaps the very best form of intercession is intercessory prayer. We pray for
people who are unable or unwilling to pray for themselves. We have to put our
own wants, needs, and wishes aside and talk to God for these people. Our
prayers give God the excuse to move deep into Satan's territory. It is in
praying for others that we realize the immense compassion that God has for us.
We can learn how to bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us
(Luke 6:28).
Have you ever had someone ever intercede for you in a situation where you
couldn't take care of yourself? How did that situation help you to understand
better what it means that we have Jesus interceding in our behalf? 
WEDNESDAY
October 27

What Abigail Won't Do

People often are afraid of an abusive person. They are ready to cover for the
abuser and will lie and pretend in order to appease the abuser.

Read 1 Samuel 25:25, 26. What does it say about Abigail that she was so open
about her husband's faults? How does this make her intercession in his behalf
that much more remarkable? If someone were interceding for you right now (which
there is), what might be said about you? 


Although Abigail is ready to risk her life to save her household, she also has
personal integrity. She does not lie for Nabal. She knows that he is the one
with the problem, and she is not afraid to say so even in public.

Someone in an abusive relationship often begins to feel responsible for the
abuser's actions and feels guilty. Abigail does not do this. She has a strong
sense of self-worth. This sense of worth is grounded in her sense of mission.
She does not give herself credit for intercepting David and bringing the gift
but sees herself simply as God's instrument in changing David's mind. Because
Abigail knows who she is, she is able to encourage David to be all he can be.
She reminds him that he is to fight the Lord's battles and not waste his time
and energy in seeking revenge for personal insults. Abigail's observation that
"evil [has] not been found" in David (1 Sam. 25:28, NKJV) is both a statement
and a warning that David has not (yet) disqualified himself from the great
office that he has been anointed for--to be king.

Abigail also reminds David that with his life firmly bound up in God, he has no
need to "save face" or defend his honor. God would do it for him.

Remember, too, that in Abigail's world divorce and even separation were not
options for a woman. From an earthly point of view, she would "belong" to her
husband until the day of her death. However, Abigail does not see her life as
useless or as a permanent prison. She believes that God will deal with her
husband in His own good time.

Abigail's speech shows that wisdom can be found in any life situation where we
surrender ourselves to God. Wisdom is not a theory but a practical way of
living and reacting to the people around us.
What does it mean to surrender ourselves completely to God? How does one do it?
If someone were to say to you, "I want to give myself completely to the Lord,
but I don't know how," how would you respond? 
THURSDAY
October 28

In and Out

Unlike many of us, David could take constructive criticism, and he observes in
Abigail's words the workings of God. In a moment he sees the consequences of
his proposed actions in perspective, and he is thankful that God has intervened
to prevent a bloodbath. Abigail arrives home to discover that her husband is
once again in no condition to listen, and so she wisely waits until the next
morning to inform him of what has happened.

Nabal is terror-stricken. He most likely suffers a stroke and dies ten days
later. David has not forgotten Abigail and sends men to make a marriage
proposal for him.

Consider Abigail's last recorded words in the context of this week's study (1
Sam. 25:41). What do they tell us about Abigail? What other biblical examples
can you find of the same principle in action? 
Abigail was a woman of influence. She had five maids; and yet, she was willing
to serve. Much later Jesus would say, " 'the Son of Man did not come to be
served, but to serve' " (Matt. 20:28, NKJV).

Abigail's life was no fairytale, even after her marriage to David. As was the
custom in those days, David had many wives, and family life was far from God's
ideal. Abigail was David's second wife and had to be constantly on the run from
King Saul. At Ziklag she, along with the other men's families, was captured by
the Amalekites and later rescued. It is here where Abigail finally disappears
from the biblical narrative. We would all expect to see this wise and beautiful
woman at King David's side, playing an important role as David's story develops
further, and there's only silence instead. All we know about her further is
that she had a son called Daniel (1 Chron. 3:1) or Chileab (2 Sam. 3:3), who
was second in line to the throne by birth order.  However, both Abigail and her
son disappear from the picture. Some scholars believe that both she and her son
died violently. Given the later rapes, murders, revolts, and rebellions that
David's oldest sons were involved in, an early death was perhaps not the worst
that could happen.

As followers of Jesus, our lives are not necessarily fairytales, either. God
knows the end from the beginning, and so all the turns of our lives do not need
to make sense to us. We need, instead, to trust in the goodness of God.
Submission to others, even when appropriate, is not usually easy, for it
requires a sense of humility and dependency. How well do you fare in that area?
How can you learn to submit when necessary? How can we learn from Christ's
incredible examples of submission? 
FRIDAY
October 29

Further Study:


"[Abigail's] words could have come only from the lips of one who had partaken
of the wisdom from above. The piety of Abigail, like the fragrance of a flower,
breathed out all unconsciously in face and word and action. The Spirit of the
Son of God was abiding in her soul. Her speech, seasoned with grace, and full
of kindness and peace, shed a heavenly influence. Better impulses came to
David, and he trembled as he thought what might have been the consequences of
his rash purpose. 'Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the
children of God.' Matthew 5:9. Would that there were many more like this woman
of Israel, who would soothe the irritated feelings, prevent rash impulses, and
quell great evils by words of calm and well-directed wisdom.

"A consecrated Christian life is ever shedding light and comfort and peace. It
is characterized by purity, tact, simplicity, and usefulness. It is controlled
by that unselfish love that sanctifies the influence. It is full of Christ, and
leaves a track of light wherever its possessor may go. Abigail was a wise
reprover and counselor. David's passion died away under the power of her
influence and reasoning. He was convinced that he had taken an unwise course
and had lost control of his own spirit.

"With a humble heart he received the rebuke, in harmony with his own words,
'Let the righteous smite me; it shall be a kindness: and let him reprove me; it
shall be an excellent oil.' Psalm 141:5. He gave thanks and blessings because
she advised him righteously. There are many who, when they are reproved, think
it praiseworthy if they receive the rebuke without becoming impatient; but how
few take reproof with gratitude of heart and bless those who seek to save them
from pursuing an evil course."--Ellen G. White, Patriarchs and Prophets, p.
667. 
Discussion Questions:

  Spouse abuse is a big problem. As a church we have a responsibility to help.
That's why every year, on the Seventh-day Adventist calendar, the fourth
Sabbath of August is "Abuse Prevention Day," which gives us a special
opportunity to educate fellow members and create awareness about this problem.
What can we do to help those who are suffering from this terrible scourge? 
 "Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God"
(Matt. 5:9). Drawing on this week's lesson, what are the characteristics of
peacemakers? How can we make peace without compromising our principles?

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