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Skriven 2008-11-09 23:43:41 av Nancy Backus (1:3634/12.0)
     Kommentar till en text av Ruth Haffly
Ärende: LLLI cookbooks  was: strawberries
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-=> Quoting Ruth Haffly to Nancy Backus on 11-06-08 13:55 <=-

 NB>>> I know that I have Mother's in the Kitchen... probably not the
 NB>>> latter, as I was last truly involved with LLL almost 30 years ago
 RH>> The WFFTWF one came out in 1981; they started collecting recipies a
 RH>> year or so before.  Rachel was born in October, 1978 but I didn't get
 RH>> involved with LLLI until she was about 3 months old, January of 79.  I
 RH>> stayed with them until early 1982.
 NB>> Hmmm... I'll have to check my cookbook shelf... when I crunch the
 NB>> numbers, it seems I was* still there then... my son was born in 1974,

OK, I checked my shelf... not there.  So I guess, for whatever reason, I
didn't buy myself one.  With that kind of time frame, I might well have
submitted a recipe or two myself... but I really don't remember now one
way or the other... :)

 RH> We were in NC at the time, living in Swansboro (on the coast) but had
 RH> to go up to Jacksonville for the meetings.  A fair number of the
 RH> members were military (Marine Corps) wives.
 
We were here in NY.  The first meetings I was going to with my friend
were right here in our neighborhood, and we walked to them most of the
time.  When I became leadership track, I had to drive to another group
that was meeting across town.

 RH> Rachel weaned completley at a year (she was down to just one nursing)
 RH> so they wanted to see if I would go longer with my 2nd child.  Deborah
 RH> stopped at 18 months, with an emphatic "no mommy" (typical of her
 RH> personality).  A few months later, I let my membership expire. We were

Babies have their own schedules for that, as for much of their
development.  One of the leaders I was working with had 4 or 5 children,
and pretty much each experience was a little different.  She was tandem
nursing at one point... the baby weaned before the older child, and she
was careful to let the baby get first dibs right along... :)  She's
still a leader... was the co-leader the night I brought my niece to a
meeting for the experience.  She still tells the new moms that it's ok
to let the baby nurse as long as necessary, and that they really do ALL
wean, eventually...  That one child of hers did wean herself finally,
before starting school... (G)  My son, OTOH, weaned himself at about 8-9
months... He didn't start solids of any sort until about 6 months, and
for a while, that was snacks and nursing was food... then it switched...
when he stopped, I was still giving him a few nursings a day... but
apparently my milk had already dried up (or mostly), as, even as abrupt
as it was, I never felt any discomfort.  So, to this day, I don't really
think it was a "nursing strike".

 RH> somewhat into whole grains cooking/eating before the girls were born
 RH> but got into it more thru the local chapter library of cook books.
 RH> Between those and a natural foods co-op that we joined when Rachel was
 RH> still a baby, we got into it big time and haven't quit since.

We got into it somewhat concurrently with my involvement in LLL, as they
were good reinforcers of what we were trying to do, but only one vector
there.  We've not really gotten away from it either...  Whole grains,
natural foods as possible, avoiding additives and preservatives as
feasible, wide variety of foods in all categories...  We aren't obsessed
with it, and have slipped a bit lately for the sake of convenience, but
that's still our overall aim.  It helps that Wegmans is somewhat into
healthy foods, too, particularly one of Danny's daughters who now is
running the show.  ;)

 NB>> above) it was also beginning to be rather painful going to meetings
 NB>> with always a new crop of babies, none of whom were (or were going
 NB>> to be) mine.  So it was good timing... what would have been just a
 NB>> "vacation from" became a "retirement".  I left on good enough terms...
 NB>> had I ever been able to have another child, I'd have been welcomed
 NB>> back warmly, but as it never happened, that just became a closed
 NB>> chapter. :)

 RH> I know it must have been hard on you, always seeing those babies and
 RH> not having one of yours.  We may have gotten a bit (! G) excited in the
 RH> echo here about Sarah's birth but in 2005, Rachel lost 2 pregnancies. 
 RH> I can understand why you decided to "retire" from LLLI.

Having a reason to make a break made it a little easier to decide to...
and to admit that it was getting harder to be there.  At that point, I
still was holding out some hope that my turn would come up again, soon,
though...  ;)   It was a couple of years later that the hardest time
came... when all my then-married siblings had babies (5 in all), and
then two of them had another each, within the space of a year and a
half... and I still didn't.  At least it doesn't hurt any more... and I
can enjoy everybody else's babies now... :)

ttyl       neb

... If a cow laughs real hard, does milk come out its nose?

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