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Skriven 2009-07-19 11:32:22 av hap newsom (1:124/311)
     Kommentar till en text av Carol Shenkenberger
Ärende: RE: families 851
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Hey Carol!
->     
->  > -> can anyone I spawned be so stupid." It was not an
->  > -> atmosphere to encourage learning for the sake of
->  > -> learning but rather for the sake of avoiding ridicule.
->  > -> These are threads that run through my psyche, as well,
->  > -> as they were inculcated at a very young age.
->  > ->
->  > And that's the very worst time
->  > to be inculcated!!
-> 
-> Or the best, depending on what you inculate.
-> 
->  > I was expected to be invisible and
->  > not be an embarrassment...both of
->  > those I failed in doing many many times.
-> 
-> Heheh I was inculated young that:
-> 
-> - There is nothing I can't do if i put my mind and effort into it.  Ok,
maybe
-> I can't do a standing highjump over a 14ft wall but there's little in the
-> normal realm I can't do.
-> - Most people can do far more than they ever try
-> - Fear of failure is a limiter.  Allow yourself to fail as often as it takes
-> until you succeed.
-> - It's ok to try something new, even if everyone else says it won't work.
-> Especially if they've never tried it and have no knowledge of the subject.
-> - Being female is not a limiter.  Acting like a lost female who 'needs help
-> all the time' is.
-> 
Pretty much the opposite of what I was
taught. You were pretty lucky.
Bet you didn't get regular beatings either.

-> Sometimes, parents get it right ;-)  What I'd dearly love, is to get my Mom
-> to one of our picnics.  You all would have a hoot with a lady who's largely
-> responsible for the person I grew into.  Who in the 60's and 70's, 'flipped
-> houses' with just her and her 3 kids, to make a living.
-> 
-> Gosh she was good at smoozing them guys at the hardware stores!  She'd 
walk
-> into a new one and get the 'little lady, where is your husband' treatment
-> back then.  Only the first trip though ;-)  After that they would be 
charmed
-> and no 'little lady' treatment but serious, especially when she was buying
-> large lots of framing materials and discussing rental prices for various
gear
-> that little 5'1" girl age 12 needed to refinish solid plank wood flooring
-> (see me in the corner, checking them out, especially for adjustable height
-> then selecting one and Mom checking to see if it was powerful enough to 
do
-> the job).
-> 
-> Oh, Charlotte knows far more about power tools and home repair than the
-> average boy of her age.  She may not be aware of it though.  She's just
-> naturally soaked up that bit.
->             xxcarol

My parents are fairly responsible for my
good parenting skills....whatever they 
did raising us, I did the opposite raising
Amanda!  
Chat with you soon!
hap 
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