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Skriven 2011-06-09 16:41:40 av Ruth Haffly (1:396/45.28)
  Kommentar till text 11957 av hap newsom (1:124/311)
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Hi Hap,

-> -> drop back to yearlys.  Steve joins me in sending prayers for Anne.

->  hn> Thanks, they are felt and much appreciated!

-> Give her a big hug for me, OK?

 hn> I will do that in less than 10 minutes!

Good, repeat as needed (for both of you).


-> -> I know you're just beginning the battle but Anne is considered a
-> -> survivor from the get go. Any day you wake up, even if you feel totally
-> -> the world. You are her main support, not the doctors, not her sister or
 hn> Celebrate
-> -> small victories--another week of treatment done, a day of no
-> -> overwhelming fatigue--that kind of thing.

->  hn> We will, we know it's not going to
->  hn> be fun, we know it's going to be
->  hn> scary, and we know we'll win.
->  hn> I came home from the ballgame
->  hn> on Friday and Anne said "I'm NOT
->  hn> going to be a Cancer survivor!" (which
->  hn> scared the bejabbers out of me at the
->  hn> time) She continued, "I'm going to be a
->  hn> Cancer DOMINATOR!"!! Which made me
->  hn> feel a whole lot better too!

-> She's got a good attitude then. A couple of years ago, one of the
-> T-shirts the local ACS had for one of their events had the logo "fight
-> like a girl"----I got one.

 hn> She does have a good attitude, and is
 hn> taking it better than I am for the most
 hn> part. There is nothing I can DO to make
 hn> things better, and that is the hardest thing
 hn> for me to do is accept that I am helpless in
 hn> this and can't "fix" it and make it better.

You can't DO anything like surgery but you can BE there all the time
Anne wants/needs you there. There may be times when she will tell you to
get out of her hair but it's only for a short time. She will need some
time to herself but overall, this is one battle where your support is
crucial to her winning it. Cook for her but understand there may be
times when she will not feel like eating. Other times she may be hungry
for something out of the norm (like a burrito or pizza) at the oddest
time.  Once you find out what the treatment plan is, you might want to
do a bit of cooking ahead and freezing. It'll help on days you don't
want to, or have time, to cook. Enlist help from her school--a food
delivery for the day after each chemo treatment would be appreciated. I
know I'm tossing out a lot of ideas but we've "been there, done that"
and no, the T-shirt isn't worth the effort. (G)

->  hn> Yep already doing lots of research, and
->  hn> having a friend who's daughter works
->  hn> at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research
->  hn> Center, is a valuable resource as well!

-> Learn all you can, talk to the doctors and let your desires be known.
-> Steve did a lot of research so he could talk intelligently to the
-> doctors. BTW, if Anne needs radiation, she will become a tatooed lady.
-> Small reference points are tatooed on (barely visible) in certain areas.
-> You will laugh over idiotic things like that but it helps. If she needs
-> chemo, are you going to shave your head in sympathy? I asked Steve that
-> before I knew I'd just need the radiation; his reply was on the lines of
-> "that would not be a pretty sight".

 hn> Met with the surgeon yesterday, today
 hn> was a dye injected MRI, tomorrow
 hn> another meeting with the surgeon. Hopefully
 hn> we'll get a good set of information from
 hn> the MRI, and the DNA typing that has
 hn> not yet gotten back to us. That (hopefully)
 hn> will give us enough information to make a
 hn> good decision as to the next step. The
 hn> surgeon said that depending on the size
 hn> of the mass(es), Chemo may be the first
 hn> option to shrink it before surgery. Will
 hn> see what we learn tomorrow.

Please keep me posted.


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Catch you later,
Ruth
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... Psalms 18:2 |...God, my strength, in whom I will trust;

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