Text 19022, 95 rader
Skriven 2011-12-14 22:47:55 av Nancy Backus (1:261/1381.0)
  Kommentar till text 18941 av MICHAEL LOO (1:123/140)
Ärende: Re: mental 348
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-=> Quoting MICHAEL LOO to NANCY BACKUS on 12 Dec 11  14:28:00 <=-

Just an oddity... this and 3 others (but not the one to Dale) showed up
as dupes the next day's packet... still from Docs, same date/time stamp,
too, for all four...

 ML>> In my case, it's almost as though my memory of the Mozart 40th
 ML>> symphony is stored next to that of (for example) orange Julius,
 ML>> and pulling the one recollection from the shelf knocks the next
 ML>> one off, so I get two nostalgias for the price of one.
 NB>> Interesting brain connections... :)   Such a deal, too... (G)

 ML> Such a deal. There were some for a while that went together
 ML> consistently, but - true to form - I can't remember them.

Deals never last... ;)  I find that the strangest things will joggle
loose memories, but often there's at least some esoteric connection
between them...
 
 NB>> Interestingly, I enjoy pina coladas, even though neither pineapple or
 NB>> coconut are my favorite flavors... :)   Haven't had any for ages, though.
 ML>> Match made in heaven: the richness of the coconut cuts the acid of
 ML>> the pineapple, and the tartness cuts the richness, and everything
 ML>> is right with the world.
 ML> For me, as I spend much of my life cream-starved, I prefer that
 ML> the balance be more coconutty, and also fresh pineapple used to
 ML> give me the same kind of mouth cramps as fresh tomatoes did, so
 ML> there's the remnant of an ancient aversion.

Makes sense... both parts of it.  :)

 ML>> And it's a fine line between adaptation and maladaptation. He's
 ML>> well over that line, though.
 NB>> Yeah...  :(   I'm thankful that I don't have to be responsible for the
 NB>> maladaptives in my family, usually...  It's bad enough to have to deal
 NB>> with it on the irregular basis...

 ML> Yay, I get to go there today. Problem is that his maladaptation

What fun.

 ML> causes similar things in myself. In fact, one of the most
 ML> infuriating things is that his are magnifications of tendencies
 ML> that ran in the family, so they're really very recognizable.

That's very common.  And a constant tight-rope for the "well-adjusted"
to walk...  I remember seeing the same thing to some extent with the
less maladapted of my two maladapted sisters when I was on an extended
visit to her while bringing her back from a mental breakdown... mostly
because, due to the situation, I really couldn't (without making things
worse for me) give in to the temptation to respond in kind as I might
otherwise have done, even in some milder form.  Put things into rather
high relief so to speak...  ;/

 ML>> such for various nonprofits. So there's a load of energy there,
 ML>> but part of it is probably she keeps herself busy so she doesn't
 ML>> have time to be depressed: a sort of self-medication if you
 ML>> will, in a situation where a guy would probably turn to booze.
 NB>> Possibly healthier.  ;/  I've known women to turn to booze, too,
 NB>> though. Sounds to me like that is a sort of self-med for her... and
 NB>> then when she comes home there's nothing left to cook with...  Somehow
 NB>> one manages to accomplish a lot outside the home, one gets home and the
 NB>> depression closes in...  BTDT...

 ML> She takes work home with her - and even not being president of the
 ML> society, she still writes the weekly newspaper column (at one time
 ML> a task for the president, now whoever has time, I guess) and the
 ML> monthly newsletter.

Even if technically done in the home, it's still basically "outside" the
home... in any case, still a sort of self-medication.  And I'm still not
surprised that she doesn't have the mental energy to put into cooking. :)
 
 ML>> I lead well in difficult situations; under normal circumstances
 ML>> I am definitely a follower, and a lethargic one.
 NB>> Makes perfect sense to me...  of course, I'm am introvert
 NB>> corner-sitter that only appears extrovert when circumstance requires
 NB>> leadership from me...  :)

 ML> In my career, this took the form of my being either concertmaster
 ML> or a lazy back bencher (sometimes even back in the viola section),
 ML> which sort of confused my colleagues. Lately I would prefer lethargy,
 ML> but all my gigs are up front (pays a bit more, which is good).

Now that you are "retired", it probably is harder to get those backbench
gigs... ;)  I've prefered teaching one-on-one, but got talked into
teaching a group Sunday school class for a couple of quarters. 
Discovered it was doable, at least... and have since done similar on a
one-off basis. 

ttyl         neb

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