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Skriven 2012-06-16 11:35:00 av NANCY BACKUS (1:261/1381)
     Kommentar till en text av MICHAEL LOO
Ärende: Re: health 789
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-=> Quoting Michael Loo to Nancy Backus on 06-13-12  02:54 <=-

 ML> Indeed. Sometimes I think that Annie's being self-absorbed,
 ML> but I have never been in quite her situation. Part of it is
 ML> that they keep saying he's going to die soon, and she comes
 ML> to terms, but then he doesn't die, and the hopes come up
 ML> again, and so goes the roller coaster. Enough to wear down
 ML> the strongest person.

The roller coaster is the worst part of it.  Hard to just take each up
and down as just what they are, today's happenings... and stay calm and
accepting of whatever is there...
 
 NB>> I agree that there should be extra support there in the house, at
 NB>> least for a while, to make sure that he is indeed able to maintain. 

 ML> They've arranged for various nursing and PT modalities to
 ML> be delivered at home. Plus hospice remains a resource when
 ML> it comes to that. What Annie dreads (and is indeed to be
 ML> feared) is what happens when something bad happens at a
 ML> time when no help is available.
 
 NB>> Local friends hopefully will be able to do that...  Can they get some
 NB>> sort of aide service in to help take on some of the work, and free
 NB>> Annie to just be there for Billy?  That could also provide a safety net
 NB>> for both... 

 ML> That seems to be being taken care of as well, thank goodness.

That's good.  Even if it only means that there's always someone else in
the house so Annie isn't alone if something happens, that would go a
long way in keeping her stable...

 NB>> So even if he got stronger, there's not a likelihood of more chemo
 NB>> thrown at him..?  Cancer is a strange beast...  I wish Billy only
 NB>> the best... 

 ML> The oncologists have called him twice in the home asking
 ML> if he would consider being put back on chemo. We figure
 ML> they're missing the tens of thousands of dollars per
 ML> treatment. Anyhow, he's stronger and - according to Annie
 ML> - in better condition than he's been in for years. The
 ML> cancer presumably is growing too, but the treatments were
 ML> so debilitating that this time Bill said no mas.

I don't blame him one bit.  The oncologists are probably just looking at
it from their usual viewpoint of aggressive treatment being the norm... 
But Billy might as well take what time he has left to be able to enjoy
what he has left... that's the path I intend to take, should I need to.

 NB>> On a related topic...  When I was up at the Pond during Memorial Day
 NB>> Weekend for my board meeting, I found out from Linda Peters that Gene
 NB>> passed away Christmas Eve.  She seems to be doing reasonably well,
 NB>> under the circumstances... she does have a fair bit of support both in
 NB>> NY and in FL, where they spent their winters.

 ML> Ah ... it's always sad, but he was in tough shape for a
 ML> very long time, wasn't he.

Yes, it was only a matter of time... he hung on for a very long time,
considering...

ttyl     neb

... Being normal isn't one of my weaknesses.

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