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Skriven 2014-03-30 21:46:18 av Ruth Haffly (1:396/45.28)
  Kommentar till text 11499 av Nancy Backus (1:261/1381.0)
Ärende: Hospital food
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Hi Nancy,

 NB>  RH>> OTOH, my dad will be glad to get sprung (hopefully Monday) from
 NB> the  RH>> local hospital.
 NB>  NB>> Sprung yet...?

 RH> On Monday, and AFAIK, all is going well.

 NB> Good news.  :)   He's at rehab now, or at home...?

Home, rehab was in the hospital.

 NB>  NB>> Must be the meatloaf was more like what he was used to...  ;)
 NB> Or  NB>> maybe it just helped that your brother was there with him
 NB> keeping him  NB>> company while he ate... :)

 RH> Don't know which it was. I made a somewhat different meat loaf than my
 RH> mom used to the last time we were up and he liked it. Could be
 RH> something about the comfort food factor associated with meat loaf.

 NB> That's quite possible.  :)

I suspect that was the reason; he's a very pedestrian eater.

 NB>  RH>> him a better idea of what Dad likes to eat (bland and boring).
 NB>  NB>> Sometimes the conflicts come more with the (often totally
 NB>  NB>> subconscious) upset with losing control, meals being just one
 NB> more  NB>> area in which one can't do what one used to be doing...

 RH> That's probably as much as anything the situation. He feels he should
 RH> be able to do a lot more than he is actually capable of and resents
 RH> that he can't do (physically or otherwise) what he thinks he can.

 NB> It's a process of giving up control, and then also becoming resigned
 NB> to it... takes time, takes thoughtfulness too at times... realization
 NB> of how things are, and coming to peace about it...  :)

I think he's come to terms with things but wants to hold on to "take
care of Mom" even tho in reality he can't, at this point. The illusion
of doing so is what's keeping him going--if she goes first, he won't be
that far behind (or vice versa).

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Catch you later,
Ruth
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