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Skriven 2014-09-30 21:22:00 av NANCY BACKUS (1:123/140)
     Kommentar till en text av RUTH HAFFLY
Ärende: Re: Sugars
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-=> Quoting Ruth Haffly to Nancy Backus on 09-26-14  17:16 <=-

 RH>>> he comprehends it, then read it yet again.
 NB>>> And hopefully pay attention to it...  :)
 RH>> Hope so, but can't ever tell.
 NB>> True.

 RH> This may wake him up to the fact he needs to pay attention to things
 RH> previously ingnored.

One can but hope.  :)

 NB>>> on his own, and if so, how he makes out with it.   He may have
 NB>>> enough of a support system that he'll have some incentive and
 NB>>> some outside impulse to make the necessary changes...
 RH>> IF and only IF he makes use of the support structure we're trying to
 RH>> put into place, then he'll do well. If he reverts back to his hermit
 RH>> type behaviour, all bets are off.
 NB>> True, and it IS his life...  One can hope that things will change for
 NB>> the better, especially with a wake-up call of this magnitude... Given
 NB>> the loss of the foot, he may actually appreciate at least some parts
 NB>> of the support system...

 RH> Obviously for things that would have to be done on his feet. He
 RH> already had someone to do the yard work so that person will continue
 RH> on. I think Don is going to see about a housekeeping service as well.

I suspect that his total hermit days are numbered... ;)

 NB>>> Guess you'll find out as things happen...  ;)
 RH>> Same thing we're doing now with my parents and Mom's sister. We can
 RH>> get updates by calling Dad or my aunt tho; Bill isn't as willing to
 RH>> share information.
 NB>> I'm not surprised... he's spent much of his life not sharing
 NB>> information with you... you'll have to get it from other sources,
 NB>> like your other brother, as he works through the situation with
 NB>> Bill...  Bill might learn to open up some, as time goes on...  :) 
 NB>> And you may find out some parts of it when you go down to visit, even
 NB>> if it's mostly from keeping your eyes and ears open for clues..  ;)

 RH> That last part will probably give us the most information. Also, as
 RH> Don finds things out, he's letting us know but to be honest, even he
 RH> hasn't been able to talk to doctors, therapists, etc. We're having a
 RH> bit of a communications gap so are lacking in a lot of information.

We've always found that sitting around, and "happening" to be there when
the docs and therapists etc show up was useful in finding out what was
actually happening...  one can ask questions in that context and
probably even get some sort of real answers..   :)
 
 NB>>> Ziplock microwave bags can come in rather handy, for all sorts
 NB>>> of microwave cooking... especially nice for steaming veggies...
 NB>>> no cleanup after...
 RH>> Don't know how much into cooking things like veggies he will be. If
 RH>> they require prep work (as fresh usually do), I'd say the chances are
 RH>> not as good that he'll do them. But, I can't say for sure. I do know he
 RH>> won't turn into any sort of gourmet cook but if he can break away from
 RH>> prepackaged, predone stuff, he'll be much better off.
 NB>> There are veggies available in steamer bags now... he might be
 NB>> encouraged to try them... :)   I've seen them both fresh (in Wegmans'

 RH> I tried the frozen ones when they first came out 8 years ago. We were
 RH> living in guest housing in Savannah, waiting for our quarters to
 RH> become available and cooking resources were limited. We were less than
 RH> impressed, never bought them again after the first try but they may be
 RH> just the thing for a non cook to use.
 
They've improved since they first came out.  And are definitely easy
enough for a non-cook to use...  One can even get microwave rice (brown
rice and other specialty rices too, even) now... making that a quick and
easy addition to a meal.  :)

 NB>> produce department, dunno if other stores have done that much) and
 NB>> frozen... Frozen can be just about as good, both taste and nutrition
 NB>> wise, as fresh, as long as it has been processed and handled properly.
 NB>> He should be able to find some reasonable subsitutes for the highly
 NB>> processed stuff that are about the same degree of work as what he's
 NB>> used to fixing... and be better for it...  :)    He might need some

 RH> He will need a trip to the grocery store(s) with one who knows what to
 RH> look for. Hopefully there's a Publix in his neighborhood; they are a
 RH> better quality store, almost as good as Wegman's. But, if Food Lion is
 RH> the only choice, he'll have to learn to make the best use of it.

Food Lion might need even more supervisory help at first, to find the
best choices of the less than wonderful...  ;)   I've good things about
Publix... 
 
 NB>> encouragement that direction, or at least input as to what's
 NB>> available. I suppose you could check out the grocery stores while
 NB>> you're there, to see what can be obtained locally... :)

 RH> We will do so but our food preferences are pretty much the polar
 RH> opposite of his. We'll have to educate ourselves to his tastes and
 RH> choices, then teach him how to make the best choices.

You probably have enough idea of his tastes to be able to at least scope
out the available stores in the area, and go from there...  But yes, the
more you know of what he IS willing to eat or even try, the more help
and encouragement you can offer that he's likely to accept, even if
somewhat grudgingly to begin with...  :)

ttyl          neb

... BUDGET: an orderly approach to going into debt.

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