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Skriven 2009-07-09 11:36:42 av hap newsom (1:124/311)
     Kommentar till en text av Ruth Haffly
Ärende: RE: dad
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Howdy Ruth!
-> 
-> ->  hn> so good a parenting. It was not something
-> ->  hn> he was equipped to do well.
-> 
-> -> However, you seem to have done well with the job.
-> 
Mom did a better job, at least she tried harder.

->  hn> More likely "in spite of" (grin)
-> 
-> Probably because you knew what didn't work. (G)  Nobody doe a perfect
-> job of parenting; some folks seem to do it better than others to.  You
-> and Anne have done a great job raising Amanda from what I've read over
-> the years.
-> 
It was a concious effort to "NOT" do what
my folks had done. Plus Anne had a big 
hand in it as well. but yes, I'm pretty happy
with the way Amanda turned out.

-> ->  hn> My Aunt Ruth is my Dad's only sister too.
-> 
-> -> And you got to see her last week?
-> 
->  hn> Yes, although my dad's only brother was sick
->  hn> and could not make it to the funeral.
->  
-> ->  hn> Only a smattering of family was able to make
-> 
-> -> Are there any others that might enjoy the echo here?  Or do they all
-> -> cook typical Southern fried or boiled everything?
-> 
->  hn> Some might, but most aren't too
->  hn> 'puter oriented. One cousin would be
->  hn> great, as he's very into the "old ways"
->  hn> and does a lot of "foraging" for native
->  hn> foods and pre Civil War recipes ala
->  hn> the Foxfire books.
-> 
-> If they don't activvely participate, maybe you can be the spokesman or
-> recipe "funnel" for some of them.  The above mentioned cousin sounds
-> like he would have lots of information you could post.
-> 
To be honest, I don't even know if he has 
a computer!

-> ->  hn> Mom and Pop were married over 61 years and
-> ->  hn> I'm sure most of her habits run very deep and
-> 
-> -> Hopefully all will settle out smoothly.  She may not feel like cooking
-> -> for one but she will need to eat to keep up her strength.  If she has
-> -> freezer space, it might be good for her to cook for two and freeze the
-> -> extra meal--or give it away.
-> 
->  hn> When I called her yesterday, she was making
->  hn> a peach cobbler. She grew up cooking in a
->  hn> large kitchen, for a large family so cooking
->  hn> to her is almost theraputic..and anything
->  hn> that helps is ok in my book.
-> 
-> 
-> Sounds like she's working thru things well.  Sometimess just the motions
-> or rooutine of food preparation can be very soothing.
-> 
-> 
->  hn> She's already started going through things
->  hn> and she may not slow down until she's
->  hn> reached a point where she's satisfied.
-> 
-> If that's her ay of handling things, then let her do it now.  She will
-> be fine, just keep half an ear bent that way.
-> 
-> 
Yep, that's what I do!
chat with you soon!
hap 
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