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Skriven 2014-10-04 19:06:21 av Ruth Haffly (1:396/45.28)
  Kommentar till text 17666 av NANCY BACKUS (1:123/140)
Ärende: Sugars                                                   [1]
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Hi Nancy,

 NB>  NB>> I suspect that his total hermit days are numbered... ;)

 RH> They were from the time he went into the hospital. He's not been home
 RH> since mid July, no idea when/if he ever will be.

 NB> True.  The real question is more, will he accept it somewhat
 NB> graciously or fight against it, making things harder for himself...

If he's like Dad, he will fight it as long as he can, then grudgingly
admit it was a good idea (tho not totally accept it) overall.

 NB> even he  RH>> hasn't been able to talk to doctors, therapists, etc.
 NB> We're having a  RH>> bit of a communications gap so are lacking in a
 NB> lot of information.  NB>> We've always found that sitting around, and
 NB> "happening" to be there  NB>> when the docs and therapists etc show up
 NB> was useful in finding out  NB>> what was actually happening...  one
 NB> can ask questions in that
 NB>  NB>> context and probably even get some sort of real answers..   :)

 RH> That's sort of how Dad got talked into putting in a stairway lift.
 RH> Steve went with him for a physical therapy session, started talking
 RH> with the therapist about the benefits of a lift, would it be a good
 RH> idea for Dad and Mom, etc, etc. Therapist agreed, it would be good,
 RH> especially for Mom, so Dad broke down and had it put in. After it
 RH> went in, he used it from the get go as well. (G)

 NB> Yup...  there's a different synergy at work when caring family or
 NB> friends enter the picture actively...  :)

And, going about an idea from a different tack than "you must" makes a
big difference. Dad finally had the ramp put in 2 years ago when Don
told him that without it, Mom was a prisoner in her own house. Ouch,
yes, but true so Dad acquesced. We'd been fussing at him to get one put
in but it took Don's blunt statement to get it done.

 NB>  RH>> but they may be just the thing for a non cook to use.
 NB>  NB>> They've improved since they first came out.  And are definitely
 NB> easy  NB>> enough for a non-cook to use...  One can even get microwave
 NB> rice

 RH> I'll have to look for them. For all I know, Bill could have used them
 RH> already but if not, it's a good idea for a non cook to try. I don't
 RH> know how much of a rice eater he is; we've never discussed it. Any time
 RH> I've eaten out with him over the last I don't know how many years, he's
 RH> gone for french fries as his starch of choice.

 NB> Eating out isn't always the same as eating at home... and sometimes

Very true, but I've not seen Bill that much since I left home. Up in
M'ville from time to time, having to eat Mom's cooking or the
occaisional meal out but really, not that much. I cooked for both
brothers, Dad, Steve and myself the one night when we were up in May. I
made a beef stew, set a loaf of bread with it and both brothers ate like
they'd not eaten in months, instead of hours.

 NB> some things aren't eaten at home because it's seen as being too much
 NB> effort...

Especially for one person, even multiple servings.

 NB>  NB>> (brown rice and other specialty rices too, even) now... making
 NB>  NB>> that a quick and easy addition to a meal.  :)

 RH> He might want to give it a try; I'll stick with my rice cooker. (G)

 NB> I'd expect you to say (and do) that... ;)   I find it a helpful
 NB> shortcut when things get hectic, so I try to keep at least one package
 NB> in the
 NB> freezer... but usually I'd be making my brown rice normally..  :)

I'll have to get Bill's opinion on rice. If he makes any, it's probably
Minute or a boil in bag type.

 NB> find  NB>> the best choices of the less than wonderful...  ;)   I've
 NB> heard good  NB>> things about Publix...

 RH> Have to keep him out of the frozen, pre packaged meals section in any
 RH> store. Same with canned convenience goods.

 NB> Oh, I dunno... one can find better choices there if one looks... and
 NB> if autopilot leads him to that aisle, learning to look for better
 NB> choices is a useful thing...   :)

Auto pilot with blinders then. Blinders that steer only to good choices,
not bad. A good session on label reading, especially the nutrition
label, before even hitting up the store would be a good starting point.
Then, at he store, point out the nutrition information, good and bad,
what a better choice might be.

 RH> As for Publix, we shopped
 RH> them a fair amount while in Savannah and really liked them. We've also
 RH> been to the one in Zephyrhills, FL a few times; they had a big lottery
 RH> winner a while ago but it wasn't anybody my in laws knew.

 NB> Linda and Randy (my friends originally from Florida) think highly of
 NB> Publix... :)

It'll be nice to get one closer than Cary, once the neighborhood stops
their squabbling over it.

 NB>  RH>> opposite of his. We'll have to educate ourselves to his tastes
 NB> and  RH>> choices, then teach him how to make the best choices.
 NB>  NB>> You probably have enough idea of his tastes to be able to at
 NB> least  NB>> scope out the available stores in the area, and go from
 NB> there...

 RH> Not really; whenever we've been together in M'ville, we eat what is
 RH> cooked for everybody. Even in the times we've been there & eaten out,
 RH> it's been at my folks favorite place for schnitzel and all the plates
 RH> come with the same sides.

 NB> In that case, you'll have to let him tell you, I guess...  :)

IOW, like pulling teeth to get a straight answer.

 NB>  NB>> But yes, the more you know of what he IS willing to eat or even
 NB>  NB>> try, the more help and encouragement you can offer that he's
 NB> likely  NB>> to accept, even if somewhat grudgingly to begin with...
 NB> :)

 RH> I need to find out what he likes, what sort of diet they want him to
 RH> follow, what sort of cooking ability he has, if his kitchen is able to
 RH> be used for cooking and all sorts of things on that line before I can
 RH> begin to teach him how to fend well for himself.

 NB> You can probably start with some basic assumptions, such as ability to


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