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Skriven 2011-01-20 15:59:58 av Roy Witt (1:387/22)
  Kommentar till text 13699 av Richard Webb (1:116/901.0)
Ärende: Welcome to the 21st century in a supposedly civilized country
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20 Jan 11 03:21, Richard Webb wrote to Roy Witt:

 RW>> YEah, learned that later on <g>.

 Roy>> 1969, the same afternoon after seeing the movie; Easy Rider.

 RW> <rotflmao>  That was a big year for learning.

More than that, it was a year of lost innocence for me. Hell, when I left
the dinky town in the midwest for the big world, I was so naive I didn't
know there were homosexuals in large quantities. I had to experience their
(male and female) presence in a bar I frequented upon arrival in San Diego
to know about them. I sure wanted to get aquainted with that cute little
blond I saw there, but I was told that the butch she was with would rip my
balls off if I tried.

 Roy>>> When you're fresh out of a bad marriage, you (at least I) tend(ed)
 Roy>>> to do a lot of things you've only just heard about before...I
 Roy>>> worked two jobs and partied the rest of the time, catching up on
 Roy>>> my sleep all day Sunday...

 RW>> YEp, that was my basic m.o. after second marriage went
 RW>> south, but the partying was much more controlled then.  By
 RW>> that time I had kids in high school though, and about the
 RW>> time I'd look like I'd possibly go completely off the rails
 RW>> I'd get a kid dumped on me for awhile <grin>.

 Roy>> Hate it when that happened. Gave them 50 cents each and sent them
 Roy>> to the movies.

 RW> YEp, but when they came to stay a little more difficult to
 RW> do all the time <grin>.

Mine were staying with their god-parents as we were in a custody battle.
Either one of us could visit there, but couldn't remove the kids. My ex
said that she'd be moving back to the midwest and I relented with the
judges prodding, and allowed her to take them with her. Her dad and his
new wife (my former landlady) became the new custodians and I trusted both
of them.

 RW>> Makes one pull back a bit, because "do as I say not as I do" didn't
 RW>> work with me as a kid either, and I was at least trying to set a
 RW>> better example I guess <grin>.

 Roy>> Out of site, out of mind here.

 RW> YEp, but one thing I tried to reinforce, if it's dangerous,
 RW> i.e. your friend is under the influence we'll get you home
 RW> safe one way or another, and we'll pass on any discussion
 RW> until later.

I didn't see mine on a regular basis until 1980. By then they were nearly
adults with their mother's ideas drummed into their heads. My son ran away
from home and ended up in California that year, living with me. I made him
finish highschool and offered to send him through college at my expense,
but he opted to work at Burger King and live with his girlfriend. His
choice came back to bite him in the arse and she ended up putting him
through school.

 RW> I endeavored to be one of those parents that used reason with my
 RW> kids.  IN some ways it worked rather well, then there were the other
 RW> times when it didn't.  <oh well>  Water under the bridge and all
 RW> that.

I tried that and was successfull with it with step-kids, especially one of
them. I took over his punishment when his mother broke several veins in
her hand while giving him a spanking. If she didn't hit him so hard, she
wouldn't have done that. I used a rolled up newspaper on my desk behind
closed doors, pinching his ass so he'd have at least one tear in his eye
and let him yell and scream to make it sound real, before letting him out
of the room. I guess he gained a whole lot of respect for me, as he's
still in touch today.


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