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Skriven 2005-04-02 14:02:12 av Ardith Hinton (1:153/716.0)
     Kommentar till text 58 av James Bradley (1:134/77.0)
Ärende: People...  1.
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Hi, James!  Retitling 2B, and dividing it into three parts:

JB>  Tact to me means you don't say something that could
JB>  come back to haunt you later. Say in a business
JB>  situation, or as a consumer, there are ways to allow
JB>  people grace, while you are tearing their faces off.


           Sounds like a good rule of thumb to me!  I think the same applies in
relationships with one's friends & relatives too....  :-)



JB>  I guess I was blessed with parents that have a sense
JB>  of the ridiculous. They can both be pretty funny.
JB>  Shoot, even the extended family can be pretty funny
JB>  come to think about it.


           IMHO a sense of humour goes a long way....  :-)



JB>  I just need some goals now. <L>


           There have been times in my life when I wondered what I was supposed
to be doing next.  Maybe you & I are already doing it here in SURVIVOR....  :-)



AH>  Language is a tool just as a musical instrument is.
AH>  It can limit thought... or help refine it.  And if
AH>  you can express clearly what needs to be said, I'm
AH>  reluctant to interfere....  :-)

JB>  Cheers! You're a bloomers kinda girl. <BWEG>


           Uh... yeah, I guess I am in some ways.  :-))



AH>  If your sister has actually read the stuff & she
AH>  understands what she's read, I guess it's better
AH>  late than never.

JB>  You got that right. It's just like them to be full
JB>  of their own notions though. I guess that can be
JB>  true for most of us.


           Probably....  :-)



JB>  As long as the song's in "Our key" everything is
JB>  peachy. Comes a minor key, and you can spot the
JB>  Laurence Welk crowd in a heartbeat.


           Maybe they don't "change their tune" when new information enters the
picture, or recognize that the background music could be a false alarm....  ;-)



AH>  if your earlier attempts to communicate the same ideas
AH>  didn't register and/or if her offerings are biased in
AH>  favour of what she thinks you should do.

JB>  I guess there is some of that. I think most of it made
JB>  me realize *why* I repeat myself so much. "THEY DON'T
JB>  BLOODY WELL LISTEN!" There, I feel better now. {-|


           I can relate.  As I was about to start on my reply to the above, our
doorbell rang.  Two individuals representing an organization unknown to me were
apparently going around the neighbourhood seeking gifts of money.  One launched
into a spiel about how the organization helps disabled people, at which point I
asked "Oh... you realize we have a disabled person here??"  They hadn't noticed
the wheelchair just inside the door & other clues which would be fairly obvious
to somebody with related experience.  To their credit, however, they offered me
a pamphlet about the good work the organization does & left it at that....  ;-)

           People don't always take in what they see or hear.  They may believe
they're good listeners... others may describe them as good listeners.  But they
may seem deaf to your concerns because the subject matter is unfamiliar to them
and/or because they're preoccupied with an agenda of their own which has little
or nothing to do with you.  Ignorance is curable, and if a person is willing to
learn I'm quite happy to help.  If the real issue has to do with something else
entirely, however, I think it may be wiser to keep one's own counsel... (sigh).




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