Text 377, 115 rader
Skriven 2006-08-08 02:10:12 av James Bradley (1:134/77.0)
    Kommentar till text 373 av Ardith Hinton (1:153/716.0)
Ärende: The World Turns...  1.
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On or about: 07-30-06  15:42, Ardith Hinton did engage James Bradley regarding,
but not limited to: The World Turns...  1.

 JB>  Their exposure to "arguments" may be more traumatic

 AH> Uh-huh.  An argument can simply be a reason offered in favour
 AH> of  doing something, or an exchange of opinion.  Even when the 
 AH> exchange becomes heated... i.e. how the majority of folks 
 AH> seem to interpret the word... it can be resolved in a 
 AH> manner satisfactory to both parties.  I learned that from 
 AH> my parents.  But other folks, going by different examples, 
 AH> might easily feel threatened....  :-/
 
It doesn't help preconception, when 90+% associate the word with raised voices.
If unthreatening, compassionate people are abundant, usually
the thin skins are deflated/leave early, and the rest of the party can start
properly. 


 AH> Or an animal which has just been hit by a car, for 
 AH> example, then turns on the human beings who are trying to 
 AH> help.  Years ago Dallas & I had a dog who was abused by her 
 AH> previous owner.  She cowered when I held anything in front 
 AH> of & just above her head, and she panicked when the 
 AH> clothesline squeaked.  She got over it in time, though, 
 AH> especially after I added a mineral supplement....  :-)
 
Imagine. I thought you were going to add mineral *oil* to the cloths line.
Instead, you *oiled* the dog? <L>

What kinda voodoo is that? B-vitamines and such? 
 

 AH> Well... as with physical scars, emotional scars develop
 AH> naturally in  a previously wounded area.  The scar tissue may be
 AH> stronger  in some ways than the original, but it's also more rigid & 
 AH> resistant to further healing.  Where there is some 
 AH> hypersensitivity it is possible that healing is still 
 AH> ocurring or could be if the person concerned is amenable to 
 AH> change.  The individual who goes into fight-or-flight mode 
 AH> whenever they encounter something which reminds them of an 
 AH> event in the past can learn to handle such situations 
 AH> differently.  However, it is difficult & painful work which 
 AH> not everyone is willing to undertake....  :-)
 
Well, I would dare say, willing or not, there are some cuts that will never
heal in that area. Little do I know about the wiring, or the psychology
involved, but I've heard that there are repressed emotions that never heal.
Despite the worst imagined horror, there always seems to be one-
upmanship scumbag to imagine worse, and they are not satisfied until they live
out their adream'. I just can't fathom how I might react, if I was
victimized half as bad as I have heard about.
 

 AH> ... we live in a world of opposites, and maybe that's how 
 AH> we learn best.  If w76e had no such problems we wouldn't know 
 AH> when we were relatively well off....  :-)
 

Laugh! Life sucks, and then you're born? 

I was a student of Kung Fu, the TV series. Once, Grasshopper is told a
philosophy, "Without darkness, we could not compare it to the light."
Bla-bla-bla...  "Without wind..." You get the idea. 

Ya, if there is a great plan to this condition we are in, there sure better be
a punch line!


 AH>  OTOH, I couldn't care less what Nora's teachers wear
 AH>  if they can relate to Nora's viewpoint.  The problem
 AH>  with this teacher was that she didn't... (sigh).
 
 JB>  ...And may only connect on a superficial level at the
 JB>  best of times.


 AH> Now that you mention it, that does sum things up quite
 AH> well....  :-) 
 
Just this week, I had been recalling a channel surf. I landed on one home
improvement/reality show, where the poor lady had the whole common
area in her house in a pink motif. I aint talking pink walls, with a blue
couch. EVERYTHING was a shade of pink, right down to the mantle of
the fireplace! Her poor boys didn't know any different, but they would "Aw,
MOM!?!" when she came home with a pink chatchky, and go on
with their day. Now, at least she had the sense to listen to friends, or gather
the friends that would cut her no slack, but at least she was getting
professional help. <L>

 
 AH> same.  Your comments often inspire me to think more deeply 
 AH> & vice versa.  I also find that rewarding.  :-)

I think that goes full circle with the "argument" topic. Someone brings up a
topic. The other talks through-their-hat, and the first observes, and
derive sometime archaic topics, or a semantic thread that inspire another
topic. And the world goes around.

But, right now, I have to try to fix a few things on the new-old mid-sized van
I bought for three-hundred dollars. The drive train seems top notch,
except for some of the bills I discovered with the manual. Poor bugger must
have had six water pumps installed, and the transmission was rebuilt
in '02. New alternator, oil pump, rad flush... All SORTS of unnecessary
repairs, from all places, Canadian Tire. No wonder his business was
being liquidated. His mechanic sent his kids through trade school at this guys
expense. 


... James

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